I ask you, when you say it hurts, to tell me on a scale of one to ten, so I know exactly what to say to let you know, if I could, I would transfer spines.  I would switch us in a heartbeat, just to stop the pain.  But then, I wouldn't.  It defines you.  I mean that in a good way.  You are the strongest person I have ever met.  I admire you, I honestly do.  I wish I had your courage.  If I could change one thing between us, it would be our friendship.  I wish we were best friends.